Kiintymystyyliteoria

Oman kiintymistyylisi voit testata tällä testillä.

Tietoa kiintymistyyliteoriasta.

A. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, others want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.

B. I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me.

C. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to get very close to my partner, and this sometimes scares people away.

Based on this three-category measure, Hazan and Shaver found that the distribution of categories was similar to that observed in infancy. In other words, about 60% of adults classified themselves as secure (paragraph B), about 20% described themselves as avoidant (paragraph A), and about 20% described themselves as anxious-resistant (paragraph C).

Ei kovin onnistunut yritys setviä parinmuodostusta kiintymystyyliteorian avulla.

Lisää tietoa aiheesta (pdf): In general, self-report measures of romantic attachment style seem related to marital satisfaction. Security or comfort with closeness tends to be associated with higher marital satisfaction. One's own anxiety over abandonment, a feature of the anxious-ambivalent style, is related to lower satisfaction for both husbands and wives.

Secures are less likely to get divorced or separated. Interestingly, anxious-ambivalent husbands get married more quickly than secure or avoidant men. They may view marriage as a way to lessen their fears of abandonment and reassure themselves that they are loved.

Individuals with secure styles characterize their dating and premarital
relationships as more positive and more satisfying than insecure people. The least satisfied are insecure individuals adhering to traditional genderbased
stereotypes--i.e., avoidant men and anxious-ambivalent women.

Satisfaction is also related to the dating partner's attachment style.
In general, women are less satisfied with avoidant men, perhaps because such
partners are prone to dismiss the importance of the relationship. On the other hand, men who have anxiousambivalent partners are less satisfied. These men may feel threatened by the demanding and possessive nature of anxious-ambivalent women.

Who pairs with whom? Secure people are prone to date another secure
individual. Pairs comprised of two avoidants or two anxious-ambivalents are uncommon, perhaps because a similarly insecure partner would violate the expectations held by the individual.

People with insecure styles are less likely to have an ongoing romantic relationship. The picture is more complicated, however, if a steady or serious dating relationships has developed. Among the men, the anxious-ambivalent are most likely to have the relationship end within a couple years; among the women, the avoidant are most likely to have it end. Avoidant men and anxious-ambivalent women's relationships are at least as long lasting as the secures relationships, even though they are the least satisfied with their relationships.

Though the anxious-ambivalent women´s relationships may be as
lengthy, they seem to have an "on-again, off-again" pattern, breaking up with
the partner and then re-establishing the relationship. Avoidant men´s relationships may continue because they are typically paired with anxious-ambivalent or secure women.

Dating violence and its relation to attachment views has only begun to be studied. Some preliminary work suggests that women who have been sexually victimized have more preoccupied.

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